Are you a Total Top? Do you want your boy to become fully passive pussyboy and completely dependent on his hole for all orgasms and sexual pleasure? Then you need to train him to think of his ass as a fully functional pussy. The advice below does not apply to versatile couples, only to those interested in a Total Top/pussyboy type arrangement.
Tips for training a pussyboy:
1. Discourage use of his cock. Every time he uses his cock he is experiencing pleasure as a Top, is neglecting his pussy and learning to get off with his cock instead of his hole. If you aren’t into the whole BDSM and chastity scene, encourage him to hold back from masturbating with his dick, and encourage him to finger himself instead. If you are in bed together and he is trying to wank, push his hands away from his cock so he gets used to sexual pleasure without associating it with cock pleasure. When you fuck him make sure he is focused on the sensations his pussy is giving him by not allowing him to wank during sex - fuck him in a position that is difficult for him to do so such as face down on the bed. Buy him jocks so that his cock is hidden away and minimised but his pussy and ass is on display and have sex while he wears these so he learns that his cock is not necessary for good sex. Very controversially, and only if this fits with the type of relationship you have, encourage the boy to feel naughty if he touches his dick, but reward him for playing with his pussy. If he has a small dick, or if it is smaller than yours, remind him how small it is compared to your cock, and encourage him to think that his cock is small because it is only meant to pee and not to fuck. Fucking is reserved for Men/Daddies/Tops with Real Cocks, not for a boy and his little nubbin. If he is caught touching his dick, act disappointed, so he feels shame when he touches himself there. Of course if you are in a BDSM relationship then there are many options available to you to reinforce this notion that boy touching his nubbin is bad - whether through chastity or punishment. The idea is to encourage negative feelings towards his cock and achieving orgasm in a conventionally ‘male’ way.
2. Make him feel good about his pussy. All boys are naturally self conscious and worried about what their Daddy/Top thinks about them. By telling him how beautiful and delicious his pussy is, and letting him know how much you love it as often as you can, he will gain confidence in his pussy and be much more comfortable in showing it off and using it. Reinforce behaviour which glorifies his pussy and puts it at the forefront of his sexual pleasure and identity. Much like you are trying to promote a feeling of the forbidden and negative towards his cock in tip 1, here you are trying to promote feelings of desirability and positivity surrounding his pussy and being a pussyboy.
3. Give him pleasure through his pussy. If you want him to be a true bottom and love it, you need to make sure he is feeling satisfied enough anally to forget about his dick. Casually grab his ass cheeks, rub his hole when kissing, play with it during foreplay and ignore his cock completely. As covered in previous posts, REAL MEN EAT PUSSY. If you truly love boy pussy then you will lick, suck and eat it out and make him moan like a bitch on heat and beg for your cock. Rub it. Play with it. Give him pleasure through it, and when you do come round to fucking it, make sure you drive him wild through the fuck and aim to give him an anal orgasm if possible. When he does have an anal orgasm, kiss him, congratulate him, make him feel proud for being a good bottom. Remember that especially for a young boy to ignore his cock and try to experience pleasure through his pussy alone is a VERY difficult task. That means that as a Top you need to be up to the task of giving him the satisfaction necessary for him to feel that it is worth all the trouble and denial he is going through.
4. Combat his shame. A lot of pussyboys may feel shame for many reasons. They may feel shame for being gay, or that they are not very masculine compared to other boys/Men. They may worry about what people think about them. Even if they come to terms with being gay and being less masculine, they may still feel bad about being exclusively passive pussyboys because let’s face it, Tops get a lot more respect than bottoms both from gays and straights. In order for your boy to truly feel comfortable in his own skin and identity as a fully 100% passive pussyboy and completely give himself to you, and by extension accept you as his 100% active long-term partner, you need to not only encourage that behaviour, but let him know that being a pussyboy is OK and anyone who disagrees can go fuck themselves. An important way to do this is to reinforce the message that you are his Man/Daddy and you will keep him safe and protect him from what any haters may say or think. Show him your love and affection as well as your dominance.
If you follow the above with a boy who is willing and wants to be trained then you may well end up in the Yin and Yang type relationship so many people idolise. Man and pussyboy the same as Man and wife. Opposites which fit together perfectly to make a whole.
So perfectly said. i feel the rest of my blog is now redundant and i am now in love with another sub!
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